Community Guidelines

What this place is

This is a place for people who decided to take their own life seriously. A daily practice. A small pod that comes to know you. A community that notices what you bring back.

It is not therapy, and it is not medical care. Our Guides teach, our pods witness, our practices train — but none of this replaces a doctor, a therapist, or emergency help. If you are in crisis, we will always point you to real support — the resources for your country are a tap away under You and in Settings, and linked from these guidelines.

The Covenant

Everyone here agreed to the same three promises at the door. They are the whole culture:

Practice. Show up for your own becoming — imperfectly, but honestly. Witness. Notice your pod. Celebrate their wins. Ask about their silence. Respect. Protect this place — every person in it, and the peace of it.

Bring what you're wrestling with. Leave other people's humanity intact.

There is room here for the things you have not worked out yet — what you believe, what you were taught, what you resent, what you are ashamed of thinking. You can disagree deeply. You can question your own beliefs out loud. You can describe something painful exactly as it happened to you.

What there is no room for is threats, harassment, or talking about a group of people as though they were less than people. The line is not how strongly you feel — it is who the sentence is about. "I noticed I distrust people from that community and I want to understand why" is your own work, and it belongs here. "Those people are dishonest" is a verdict on a group, and saying "in my experience" first does not change that.

Examining yourself is welcome. Getting better at harming someone is not.

How we speak here

• Speak from your own life. "This helped me" travels further than "you should."
• Encourage, ask, or share your experience. If a reply does none of these, let it wait.
• Never prescribe. No medical, medication, financial, or legal instructions — not even with love. Share your story; leave their decisions theirs.
• Never talk someone off their treatment. Nothing here may discourage professional care or medication. We actively respect therapy and medicine; if someone needs more than encouragement, point them to the crisis resources, not to your own remedy.
• Speak from your faith, never at someone else's. Every faith and culture is welcome in this room, and spiritual testimony is welcome with it. Claims of fact are not: "this carried me through" belongs here, "this cures it" does not.
• Hard days are welcome. Struggle posts are the bravest posts. Meet them with warmth, never with fixes they didn't ask for.
• Coming back. Nobody here shames a missed day. Coming back and saying what happened is part of the practice.
• Laughter belongs here — never at anyone. This is not a solemn march. Laugh with your pod, at yourself, at the beautiful struggle of becoming. Never at a member, never at a stumble that isn't yours. We are serious about the work and light about ourselves.

How we witness

When you respond to someone's practice, you are witnessing it. There are three ways in, and they all start from you rather than from them:

• "I noticed…" — you noticed them.
• "Something similar happened to me…" — you recognized something from your own life.
• "What stayed with me was…" — something they shared affected you.

And five moves that are not witnessing, however kindly meant:

• Advising — "You should…"
• Diagnosing — "Your problem is…"
• Prescribing — "What you need to do is…"
• Evaluating — "You did well / badly because…"
• Rescuing — "Here's how you fix this…"

"I saw this" is a tap, and it means exactly that — another member saw what you shared. Nothing more is claimed by it. If you write, speak from what you actually noticed, experienced, or were affected by.

Nobody here is asking to be fixed. They are asking to be seen, which is rarer and harder to give. "Great job" is the easiest thing to write and the least worth receiving — it can be said without having read a word.

You are never required to be vulnerable, and never required to write more than is true. One specific sentence beats a paragraph of encouragement.

What stays outside

• Politics and the outrage of the day. Members here span countries, faiths, and every side of every argument. This is the one room without that noise. You may talk about discrimination, war, immigration, public policy or any other political reality as it affects your own life — that is your struggle, and it belongs here. What stays outside is campaigning, partisan argument, debate about parties, candidates or ideologies, and verdicts on groups of people.
• Romance. This is not a place to find dates, and it is never a place to make advances. Unwanted advances are harassment, and are handled as serious harm — report them.
• Money between members. Never send money to, or take money from, another member — and never ask. If you're struggling, apply to the Kindling Fund quietly and with dignity; that's what it's for. If you want to give, give there — anonymously, like the best givers always have.
• Selling and recruiting. No promotion, no affiliate links, no courses, no "opportunities," no MLM — no matter how sincerely it's dressed. People here are working on themselves; they are not your market.
• Contact details. Don't ask for or share phone numbers, socials, or addresses. Everything this community needs lives here, where everyone is protected.

Privacy is sacred

• Your name is yours to reveal. Pseudonyms are honored — never pressure anyone about who they "really" are.
• What's shared in your pod stays in your pod. No screenshots, no retelling. Intimacy only survives inside trust.
• Your journal is yours alone. Encrypted, private, and no screen we run shows it to anyone but you — not staff, not Guides.
• Anonymous posting is for vulnerability, not attack. Use it to say the hard true thing about yourself — never about someone else.

When someone is in danger

If you see a member in serious distress: you are a witness, not a rescuer. Respond with warmth if you can, and report the post so our team sees it fast and can respond privately with the right crisis resources. Everbecome is not a crisis service — the people who are trained for this are on the numbers we point to — and getting someone to them is not abandoning them. It is getting them help that holds.

How enforcement works

Report, don't retaliate. The report button reaches a human. Anyone in your pod can flag something; only staff act on it. So nobody in your pod is ever the one deciding your consequences.

Reports are reviewed by people, not bots. Staff can remove what was reported or let it stand, and will talk to the person first where that is the right thing to do. Serious harm — harassment, predation, scams — skips the ladder. You can always appeal — write to hello@everbecome.com and a person answers — and a Guide will never be the one punishing; teaching and enforcement are kept separate on purpose.

Care comes before enforcement. A post that shows someone in crisis gets a private, resourced response first. We deal with any rule it broke afterwards, if at all.

We publish a short transparency note twice a year: what was reported, what we did. No names, no drama.

The spirit of it

No rulebook covers everything. When something isn't listed here:

When you're unsure, ask — uncertainty is not a verdict on you. And the only test that matters:

Does this make the Path safer and warmer — or not?